Kimberly Valenti, The Love Princess

How to Get Back Together with My Ex in 3 Steps

Have you just recently experienced a break up, and you are wondering
“how can I get back together with my ex”? You may want to score your ex back immediately, and this is a common feeling that everyone experiences.

You can find yourself following into an emotionally depressed state, and you may find yourself wondering what to do. You may immediately feel like calling your ex and begging him or her to come back to you. But is this really going to make things better? Rather than make things better, what it is probably going to do is make your situation much worse, chasing your ex away even further.

What you should actually do at this point is the opposite of what you are feeling.

Instead, follow these three basic steps and you will have the answer that you need to the age old question “how do I get back together with my ex”?

Step 1 – How to get back with my ex: Accept the Break Up!

First and foremost, you need to accept that the break up is happening. Tell your ex that you are okay with it, and allow the “moving on” process to begin. When you do this, it will eliminate a large amount of the tension and stress that is being experienced by all. Your ex will need time to think about the relationship, and this will give you time as well to consider your options. If your ex realizes that he or she still loves you, they will find a way to get back with you.

The Magic of Making Up

Step 2 – How to get back with my ex: Do not contact your ex!

Do not make an effort to contact your ex anymore right now. You should cut communication off with him or her so that there can be some “thinking time”. This may seem counterintuitive, but by cutting communication off you are signaling that you have already moved on and that you are doing just fine.

This will allow him or her to think about the relationship and how they feel about its value. It will also allow them to have some time to miss you again.

The Magic of Making Up

Step 3 – How to get back with my ex: Plan Ahead for the Get Together

Once you have completed the two steps mentioned just above, you can start working on planning on when you should meet, where you should meet, and also what should be said when you do meet up again. This will allow you to get a better idea of whether or not your ex still loves you, and also if there is any chance that you and your ex will be able to get back together.

“How to get back with my ex?” Can be a little more complicated than the three steps above. But they are a good start and will improve your chances of winning your ex back.

The Love Princess highly recommends,

“The Magic of Making Up”

Secret To Make Your Ex Return Your Call

Are there ‘magic’ words you can use
to get your ex to return your phone calls?

Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words
that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex
feel almost compelled to return your call.

Cool huh?…

I am going to share this with you because
this is one of the biggest questions that people
like you ask, who are trying to put their relationship
back together.

So I am going to answer…”How do I get
my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?”

BUT…

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WARNING!
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In THE MAGIC of Making Up, a complete strategy is laid out.

The Magic of Making up

If you use this technique alone, without
an ‘overall’ plan or strategy…you may
damage your relationship more than if
they never returned your call.

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What NOT to Say!
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Before we get into the actual words, let’s
go over what message almost NEVER
works.

and worse…

Puts you in an AWFUL ‘psychological’ position.

These usually fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like

“John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd
time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”

And the EMERGENCY-

“Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me
as soon as you get this.”

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with
both of those approaches?

So, I won’t go on and on…

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How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
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Two of the most powerful forces in
the human mind are

*Curiosity &
*Self Interest

And here’s the BIG SECRET

When you combine the two, you
have a recipe that WILL work ‘magic’

So…

Let’s look at what you can say
that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

“Hi John. It’s Cindy. I wanted to let
you know I appreciate what you did for
me. Call me because I want to thank you
in person.”

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity
and self interest?

John will NOT be able to resist! “What did I do?”
“What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And
he feels good because it is a positive message.

Now…

Before you call you need to do the
“Set Up”…which is figuring out what
he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any small thing…but needs to
be plausible.

But more importantly…

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2nd WARNING!
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Please have an underlying strategy
like the one laid out in the Magic Of Making
Up System BEFORE you call.

The Strategy

If you apply this technique with
no underlying strategy and they
call you back you can do more
DAMAGE than good if you do not
handle it correctly.

Okay?

What I am saying is…

What you do before, during and
after you get them to return your
call is MORE important than getting
them to return your call.

Make sense?

HAVE A PLAN

Dear Love Princess,

When is it time to give up looking? I’m 48, don’t drink party or smoke, and I am drug free. I can run a mile in under 4 minutes, I’m in great shape and I look half my age.

What age is too old? Why do I feel I’m too old? I worry about this, I have less than 18 years left, I have no woman and would love to have a child.

Is it too late for me?

Signed,
Feeling Old

Dear Feeling Old,

Too old at 48?!! Good grief, it certainly is not too old for finding someone! 48 is young today, and I would say you are at a very desirable age for a lot of women.

It sounds like you have a lot to offer a woman. You’re in great shape, you don’t do drugs and you’re motivated to find someone special. There are a lot of women who would love to meet a man like you.

If you still want a family, that is possible too. You will need to be flexible, and realize that you can create a family at almost any age. That doesn’t mean you need to find a young woman of child bearing age. You could be a welcome addition to an existing little family.

I believe that the only thing holding you back is your attitude and feeling old at 48!

I suggest an attitude adjustment, feel good about yourself and get out there!

With Love & Blessings,

The Love Princess
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Dear Love Princess,

“How Can I Get Her Back?!

About 6 months ago, I met this girl and we hit it off really well. When we started getting close she started to pull away, telling me we were moving too fast. I kind of felt like she was playing games so I just let it go. About a week later, we started talking again and she told me when she was little she was molested so she has trust issues.

We decided to try it again, because we both had feelings for each other. It started off great then she just started to disappear. I told her that I really liked her, but I couldn’t take being on this roller coaster. She told me if I couldn’t be patient then we should go our separate ways. I told her fine but tried to call her about a week later and she had blocked my number.

I have tried to get over her, but I can’t seem to stop thinking about. I’m wondering what I need to do to get her back. I’ve thought about sending flowers to her house, but it just seems desperate. Please tell me love princess, how can I get her back?!”

Signed,

Confused not Desperate

Dear Confused,

Here is how you can, get back your ex girlfriend!

Dealing with women, in this type of situation, it is critical to listen to what she is telling you. She told you the relationship was moving too fast, and that you needed to be patient with her. The key words here are, “need to be patient with me.” She is telling you every thing you need to know with those few words. She also told you that if you can’t be patient, then you can go your separate ways.

You agreed to be patient, then you contacted her again.

She doesn’t believe that you can be patient with her. As she shared with you, she has trust issues with men due to the molestation. Because of this, she is going to be looking for a man who can hear her needs, and respond accordingly.

I don’t think it would be a good idea to contact her now. Even sending flowers could piss her off further. If you do still have feelings for her, then back away and give her some time.

Let some time pass, with no contact, and see if you still have strong feelings for her. If you are still interested in a few weeks, you can consider sending her flowers. Stay away from red roses, for now!

Be careful what you put on the note. Keep it low key, friendly and don’t ask anything of her. If she is still interested, she will contact you. If she doesn’t, she is still dealing with past issues and can’t see past that. Also, she just might not be interested at this time. In either case, both of these scenarios are out of your hands. At that time, I would suggest it’s time for you to move on too.

With Love & Blessings,

The Love Princess
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Dear Love Princess:

“Why is it so hard for good men and women to find one another?”

‘Why oh Why’ from Tagged

Dear WOW,

I believe the main reason that it’s hard for good people to find each other, is because we are very picky.  We don’t go for the first thing that comes around. We have set high standards for ourselves.  Those high standards make it very difficult, to find the perfect person who fits the profile of our ideal mate.  

With Love & Blessings, 

The Love Princess